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Save Your Marriage 

Resentful? Feeling frustrated and irritated with your spouse? Wondering if you’re headed for divorce?

You’re not alone.

After her blog post on marital resentment went viral, hundreds of thousands of readers wrote to Tanja Pajevic, asking for advice. Almost all of them thought they were headed toward divorce.

But Pajevic knew it didn’t have to be that way. Her own rebooted marriage was proof, so she decided to create a fun, easy-to-read cheat sheet to share what she’d learned during five years of research and plenty of real-life trial and error—a CliffsNotes for rebooting your marriage.

In 9 simple steps, you’ll learn how to:

  • release your resentment,
  • communicate more clearly,
  • rekindle the romance in your marriage, and
  • create a marriage that’s right for you.

You’ll also learn how to:

  • break old, painful patterns,
  • create time for yourself (as well as the hobbies you once loved),
  • bring a sense of freedom back into your life,
  • release guilt once and for all, and
  • create a life full of meaning and joy.

A quick-and-dirty guide to fixing your marriage, 9 Steps to Heal Your Resentment and Reboot Your Marriage is packed with simple, effective tools that really work. See why hundreds of thousands of people have joined Pajevic’s Reboot This Marriage movement.

9 Steps to Heal your Resentment and Reboot Your Marriage



The Secret Life of Grief: A Memoir by Tanja Pajevic


This is an awesome book to help with underlining issues and fixes the real problem. Can be used well for a self help book. Don’t pass it up if you want help with your marriage. This is a ‘Must Have’. You will not be sorry. — Devyne G.

Wow — I wish I’d read this much, much sooner!! I’ve had this book for a few months and just got around to reading it. It was a quick read (cover to cover during my daughter’s morning nap) but was packed with clear, good ideas gleaned from the author’s personal experience and numerous other good sources on relationships. This provided the gentle nudge I needed to refocus on getting professional help for lingering postpartum depression, recommit to a good habit of daily meditation and exercise, and frame some healthy conversations with my husband. This is now my top recommendation for a helpful resource for new moms (or dads) dealing with the inevitable changes that parenthood brings to relationships, as well as for anyone who’s committed enough to their relationship to read a short book and give it’s suggestions a try. And take my advice to give it a try sooner, not months and months later like I did.  –abyers

This book is giving me a lot of tools for dealing with [my resentment] and I feel a lot more hopeful than I have in a long time. I wish I’d read this a long time ago, it would have saved me a lot of heartache. –Anonymous

Everyone who has been married for awhile can use a marriage reboot and this book is a great tool. The author distills a wealth of research and information into concise and useful steps that you can take to improve your relationship with your spouse. The writing style is warm, comfortable, familiar and funny — it’s like having a friend coaching you along the path. The author’s personal stories (both funny and poignant) illustrate how the book’s tips and suggestions have worked in her own life. If you’ve ever felt like the “only one” struggling through the demands of marriage and parenthood, this book is a breath of fresh air and a helpful guide. Highly recommended! — Jenny K

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